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Before using your credit card or debit card in ANY machine, make it a HABIT to tug on the card reader with good force. You’ll reduce the chances of your card being skimmed…by a lot.
If you watch lectures, speeches, interviews or presentations on YouTube, you can often increase the playback speed by .25 or .50 and still understand what the speaker is saying while saving a significant amount of time.
If someone is mad at you, give them enough time to calm down before trying to talk with them. People often don’t think logically when they are upset so trying to solve a situation while they are still mad can make matters worse quickly.
Never sign into any of your accounts by clicking a link in an email.
Even if you’re fairly sure it’s a legitimate email. Instead, load up a new page and go to the website yourself to log in. Anything that you would be asked to do via email you will be able to find on the main site and it means that you don’t risk being caught out by a scam email.
Always offer coffee to handymen who enter your house, you will get better, quicker service and fun conversations.
“I had a woman offer me iced tea when I went to her house to install some furniture, and I remember it 16 years later. It’s such a great, easy way to welcome people into your home.”
Make it a habit to delete your account from applications before uninstalling them from your phone
If you stopped using app or website make it a habit to delete your account from their platform before leaving, will let you avoid a lot of spam, security risks and privacy concerns.
Don’t argue with people on online platforms. People tend to be more defensive of their opinions and more aggressive with their words. It will only ruin your day and waste your time.
You Must Do an Absolute 100% Dry Run Test of EVERYTHING for Any Important Event or Presentation. Assume Nothing Will Work Right. Be Paranoid.
I can not tell you how often I’ve seen people screw the pooch or shoot themselves in the foot all because they didn’t completely 100% test EVERYTHING prior to some important thing they had to do.
Not having batteries, not having the right cord to connect your laptop to some projector, not having the right software to connect your system to another system, having some software update change your settings and screw up your program, forgetting to account for timezone differences, having the incorrect phone number or web meeting address, being unsure as to who is doing what, missing some widget…
When considering a financial advisor, ask if they are a fiduciary. Fiduciaries are required by law to act in YOUR best interest. This could potentially save you hundreds of thousands of dollars by retirement.
Fee-only advisors are somewhere you can potentially start. That means they aren’t getting paid to sell you stuff you don’t need (insurance products, load funds, etc.) If you don’t know what these are, please look them up. It could save you a ton later.
Harvard University listed 67 online courses for free!
Now’s a good time to pick up a new skill and/or certification for your CV.
Or perhaps you have a friend or relative that has a hard time deciphering fact from fiction within the news – there’s a course called Rhetoric: The Art of Persuasive Writing and Public Speaking where you’ll be able to ” evaluate the strength of an argument” and to ” identify logical fallacies in arguments”.
You can recall sent emails in Gmail up to 30 seconds after you’ve sent them. Change the time from the default 5 seconds in Settings>Undo Send. The option to recall the email will be in the bottom left corner.
After a bad break up, do 10 things that your ex would never do with you. You’ll feel better and realize how much of yourself was being held back.
The next time you catch yourself judging someone for their clothing, hobbies, or interests ask yourself “what does it matter to me?” The more you train yourself to not care about the personal preferences of other people, the more relaxed you become. You become a nicer person
Bonus if you can ask yourself why you’re judging someone, it may help get to the root. We all like to make connections & associations but if you drill down to the “why”, you can really start to address the implicit biases.
If you plan subscribing to a service. First investigate how to unsubscibe to that service. If it’s not straight forward, or have reports of being troublesome – it indicates the company’s main business model is to rip you off, instead of providing a quality service.
Any service that allows 1 tap sign up but to cancel you have to call them or do something else other than 1 tap cancel from account settings is just garbage. cough gyms cough.
When applying for jobs, disregard the “X+ years of experience required”
“I work as an agency recruiter and help people get their resumes in front of hiring managers on a daily basis. The “X+ years of experience required” isn’t typically a hard requirement unless applying for a job with a defense contractor. Having a similar skill set as the one listed in the job description is much more important than anything else. Also, when applying to entry level jobs, disregard the “X+ years of experience required”. If it is tagged as entry level, most of the time a college degree and internship experience will be sufficient to be considered for the role. Internal HR departments tend to work slowly and recycle job descriptions instead of creating new ones all of the time. When I post jobs, I would much rather see someone with the skill set who has less experience than someone who has the required/more experience, but doesn’t match the skill set. 9/10 times, I will get the person with less experience an interview over someone who has the years of experience, but doesn’t fully match the description.”
Kindness is contagious and shows strength. If you hold the door open for the person behind you, let someone into traffic while driving (even if they made a mistake) or simply smile at someone, that person is more likely to do the same for someone else, and so on.
You have to be okay with having uncomfortable talks with people if you are ever going to be able to have a real meaningful relationship. The fear of being uncomfortable should never outweigh the need to have a conversation. If you are afraid to talk about it, it probably means you really should talk about it.
1. Any conversation had while emotions are running wild is non-productive. If you or whoever you are talking with cant talk without yelling or being nasty take a break, calm down, and come back to it later.
2. When having a conversation i think it should be about presenting your perspective and feelings. Notice that i say conversation and not argument. I think arguments are not great and the word argument sounds like there will be a “winner”. That is just not how a relationship should work imo.
3. If you have trouble with this in your relationship, practice. Present small opportunities to bring up little issues even if everything feels fine. I call them “check ins” with my SO. It is a good opportunity to get comfortable talking about things we might otherwise struggle to find the time to bring up and it strengthens our communication skill. It also keeps resentment away because we handle everything immediately.
4. Communication is a skill. It is learned and it takes time and that is okay
“Never let it be me versus you. It should always be us versus the problem.”
If you already have a dog and are planning on getting another, introduce them by immediately walking them together the 1st time they meet. The distraction of the walk keeps them from getting possibly hostile and gives them time relax and adjust to another dog during a fun activity for them
Also, have them meet on neutral territory, not in the house!
Never loan someone an amount of money you aren’t okay losing permanently. You need to mentally consider it a gift and consider the money gone. So many people are terrible at paying back so when you consider it a gift it is a nice surprise if the money comes back. If not you really helped them
When someone is going through a difficult time and is sharing it with you, don’t talk about similar problems you’re having as a way to relate. Instead, just listen.
When someone’s sharing something difficult that they’re going through, so many people get this urge to “empathize” by replying with similar struggles of their own. This is one of the worst things you can do when someone is trying to get something off their chest to you.
Instead of talking about yourself, just listen to them. Make them feel heard. Ask questions and help them work through it themselves. More often than we realize, people just to need to feel validated and heard when they’re going through something personally difficult.
A real, effective apology has three parts: (1) Acknowledge how your action affected the person; (2) say you’re sorry; (3) describe what you’re going to do to make it right or make sure it doesn’t happen again. Don’t excuse or explain
