How to Introduce Fetishes to Your Sex Life?

Sexual life is a world of unearthly pleasure directly linked to our well-being and the couple’s emotional intimacy. Sex helps to unchain the true personalities and lets out all the hidden and secret fantasies of a couple, its diversity knows no limits. Sexual drive is about being unconventional and seeking new ways of enriching your couple’s experiences. One of the most common practices to use is fetishes, whose variability will turn your sexual desire and life upside-down. Let’s find out more.

What Are the Fetishes?

A fetish is an object of specific sexual interest, like inanimate objects, body parts, behaviors, or situations. They may not be related to sex by nature, yet, they function as triggers to arousals.

Fetishism is a rather common practice. Approximately one in four people have a fetish they are aware of and can openly talk about it. The others may also have some fantasies in mind, yet the pressure of society or upbringing makes their usage impossible. Unlike stereotypical visions of fetishes, they are exceptionally beneficial for a couple, opening up a whole new world of pleasure and desire.

What Are the Types of Fetishes?

Fetishes are the key to diversity within the couple’s sex life. They help to explore the desires of one another and extend the borders of ‘normal’ sex, deepening the boundaries of control, consent, and obedience.

Fetishes come in different forms, depending on the personal experiences and desires of the partners. They can be related to specific materials (latex, leather, nylon), body parts, BDSM practices, or specific garments.

Body Parts

Body parts, which are not a part of a traditional sex approach, can often be seen as an object of desire. Buttocks, breasts, ears, feet, hands, belly — the fantasy is limitless. When one of the body parts becomes a fetish, it often becomes ‘animated’ and performs the role of a third partner.

Some people may have a more ‘generalized’ liking of the body, like the one of the partner’s height, and feel sexual arousal by watching giantess porn. The intercourse with a giantess partner creates the feeling of full physical submission, which elevates and sharpens sexual desire and pleasure.

BDSM Practices

BDSM is often a taboo topic as it is always associated with sexual pleasure reached through hurting someone, yet it is a rather shallow vision. BDSM is a liberating practice, a guilty pleasure that lets out all the inner fantasies and anxieties. It is focused on physical and psychological control, which brings the couple to an emotional high.

BDSM belongs to erotic practices that involve bondage, dominance, submission, and masochism, which eliminate boundaries within the couple. It typically includes pain play (spanking, electro-stimulation, whipping, belly punch), sensation play (blindfolds, feather ticklers, or ball gags), and breath play (choking).

Each of the methods should only be used with a low-to-moderate force, which is just enough to make the body intense and ready for a game.

Materials

Fantasies are often based on physical sensations, therefore the materials matter. The most common ‘sexualized’ ones are latex, silk, lace, and nylon.

The partners (or one of them) enjoy the feeling of it on the skin and the sounds it creates when rubbing against the body. Apart from physical sensations, the materials complement the overall atmosphere, creating an air of romance, passion, anger, desire, etc.

Garments

One of the partners may enjoy certain types of clothing as particularly sexual, which will make their fantasies truly wild. Some can stick with the lingerie, some will opt for T-shirts or even baseball caps — there is no limit to the choice of fetishes. The understanding of a fetish comes with observation and experience.

How to Try New Fetishes?

Discovering the range of fetishes may help couples to dust off their sexual life, as it brings novelty into the relationships, and reveals the truth about the partner’s desires and cravings.

Introducing fetishes is exciting when both partners support this idea, as it deepens the emotional and physical connection between them. However, when there is one partner desiring new things and behavior in sex, it takes time, talk, and patience.

There are a few tips to follow:

• Don’t be pushy. It is important to explain the need for a certain fetish, show the videos and photos, and give some space for thoughts.
• Don’t demand – offer. When demanding certain behaviors, you kill all the joy of a sex game, as it puts pressure on the partner. When offering something, we let the person think over it and accept it.
• Involve the partner – watch the videos and do the ‘sexy’ shopping together. Even the preparation for something special will let the partners feel closer.
• Do the talking – a hearty and honest talk is the foundation of trust. If one of the partners doesn’t feel comfortable, it is important to speak out about it.
• Safety indicators – before embarking on a new sexual experience it is important to come up with ‘safety’ words, or actions, which will indicate the need to stop. It should be something non-related to the fetish or a game, to help the partners switch the attention quickly.

The Bottom Line

Sexual life is the source of true pleasure and satisfaction that complement our well-being. It is a whole new world, which lets all the secrets and dreams out, helping the inner personalities unchain and come to strength. Our daily life puts some restrictions on our behavior, as we have to comply with the rules of society. However, in sex games everything is possible (provided there is a partner’s consent), letting the partners grow together and expand their bonds and connection.

Don’t settle for less, when there is a whole universe of your fantasies to explore.